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So sorry to see these commenters leaving horrible messages. They really have no life. I've never understood why people bother to comment to be negative. You're right to ignore them and channel the anger elsewhere!
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It's awesome to hear from other people who have experience and can pass it on to people that are new to it like!! :) thank you for sharing you experiences. :D it's ridiculous how someone can say you look like a clown I think you look beautiful and those people are just being rude ignorant and are probably just jealous!
And childish as well! Trying to make me feel bad and bring me down. *flicks them away with the tips of my fingernails Thanks for your comment, Cherry! =)
This is actually the first time i saw your blog and i think it's really nice and informative. People tend to talk trash because their jealous. Don't be affected by what they say and continue what you are doing. ^^,
Hi, I like your beauty blog very much. I think the articles are not only helpful for people who search for beauty suggestions, but also very well written. I like your choice of words and the construction of the sentences. I couldn't agree more that people who post nonsence are increadibly stupid and wasting everybody's life (such as this "gina" and Jason), so don't let them get to you. However, I can't say that I agree with the idea of "if you have nothing good to say, shut up" just because a constructive critisism(compare to deconstructive critisism) to me means a better approch in doing something, it brings a positive result. It is both important and nessary for one's improvment as long as it is respectfully put (no name calling, ect.). People should be encouraged to give more constructive critisism, and learn to take constructive critisism in a positive way. By the way, the "gina post" is pure nonsense and nowhere near constructive. Have a nice day.
Juli, i stumbled upon your blog because I am still experimenting on putting on eyeshadows and I got frustrated because the tutorials i found on Youtube are mostly for Caucasians and when i tried following them, i ended up looking like i just got punched in both eyes. Your explanation about the differences between Caucasian and Asian eyes are fantastic, insightful, informative and all-in-all just excellent. I thought u were an expert make up artist due to your language and everything! Now i know how to do my eyes properly. I almost thought about giving away those eyeshadows i'd bought in the past since i would never know how to put them all on, but now i change my mind. I'd also like to thank you for explaining the difference between waterproof and smudgeproof mascara because i have the exact same problem - i use the waterproof mascara but at the end of the day i will have these dark marks under my eye!! you are a brilliant person for sharing these things to the world, and dont worry about the haters - you're as nice as an angel and they're just lonely and stupid, just like a troll.
I recently came across your blog. And I must say your tutorials are awesome. I read that Jason's comment and by his comment I really felt that a small child who hasn't stepped out of his "country" is talking. Other people look deformed?? LOL!! Wtf is that?? P.S I'm Indian
Aww Akshi, thanks so much! :D Glad that you find them awesome. Means a lot to me! Ya, very immature fella that troll. Probably don't know that the world is round too.
HAHA I laughed when I saw Jason's comment, how could anyone actually think of posting that??? I came across your blog today and I love all of the posts!! Thanks for spending time to give valuable information to the world, it means a lot!
Silly little thing, that Jason troll. Tsk tsk tsk. Thanks for coming by, ANna, and I'm so happy you're liking the posts you've read so far! Means a lot to me too! :D
The best way is really deal with trollers - by ignoring them. I kinda agree with you with the s---sense of comments though. I've gotta save this. Hope you have a follow-up entry after this.
Just read and commented on your "How to Deal With" post, clicked back, and love this one too! "They come in a package." "Envy me. Rate me. Bottom line, you ain't me." Love it. Now I'm smiling at the silly negative comment I received today. And I'm following you :). Delightful. Thank you, Bun Bun!
Errrr, if clowns looked like you, then I want to look like a clown! :D I stumbled upon your blog recently while furiously trying to procrastinate in my GMAT studying (XD) and I absolutely LOVE your articles. You are one of the few gurus who carefully break down and address the differences between Asian and Caucasian eye makeup. Makeupgeek and other Caucasian gurus are awesome and talented, but I look like collateral damage in a boxing match if I follow their directions too closely. The Asian gurus are great too but they don't really explain the differences between crease, contour, etc. etc. like you do. Keep up the good work and CHEERS!
Nawwwww..... Thanks for the compliment, dear! :D I'm so happy you stumbled upon my blog and it made you stay and read my articles! I found that there was - and still is! - a serious lack of blogs/videos that describe how Asians should apply eye makeup so that it brings out their (OUR) beautiful eyes instead of hiding them or doing nothing at all. Do you wear eye makeup? I hope you'll gain some tricks from my tutorials and tips. :) Thanks for coming by and commenting!
Don't be bothered by them my dear. Next time just simply delete this kind of comments will make your life easier. At least they won't be able to harm you or to backstab you. ?? at workplace is even more evil than these people. Anyway, happy CNY and huat huat huat ah!
Hey! I like your blog! It is regularly updated, and has a nice interface. Plus, you are very clear about your points. haha, in fact, I was inspired to update my blog layout after reading yours for a while, cos it allows people to navigate better. --- The racist one was really uncalled for. I am true blue Asian, and that makes my blood boils. But the way you simply dissed it, really calmed me down. --- Btw, I normally just read your blog, but seldom post... ... =) haha, there are silent followers out there.
Wow, random shizz much? You know what they say though - when you got hate, you got it made! I'm glad you're taking such a positive attitude to the haters, and I've been reading your blog for a while now, so keep up the great work and thanks for all the useful tips!
Just found your blog though bloglink on this great topic. You definitely nailed it! I still can't believe the Jason post, stupid troll didn't leave his info because he knows he can get sued for that kind of stuff. The good thing is that now a days authorities are taking cyber bulling into account. I can't wait for the day that people like that can be punished and learn there is zero tolerance for that kind of hateful nonsense.
Hi Crissy! Thanks for coming by my blog and commenting! :) Yea, that's a display of outright cowardice and it's funny if he thinks he can really remain anonymous. The police can simply track him down with an IP address and he'll be eating jail food very soon. Have you had similar experience with such nonsensical comments?
Hi BunBun, i've just started reading your blog articles today and couldn't stop cos they are very well analyzed and thorough! Really love them and love your sense of humour of yours, really can feel the sincerity in your writings, so hope you'll not backed down by unworthy comments. I've learned a lot over the few hours of digesting at least 10 articles of yours so far and am hungry for more. God bless you.
Aw, thanks Jenny! I'm so happy that you're savoring my articles; it motivates me tremendously to keep on writing good stuff for all my beloved readers! So what kind of articles do you like reading the most? Tutorials? Product reviews? Informative posts?
Wow...I agree that they want attention and better not give them any XDD I guess you can't really make everyone happy out there...and they are probably portraying themselves. And I agree with you 100% and you do not look like clowns :D Even if you do (imagine being a clown this Halloween :P) I will still be reading your blog. hahaha... :) I hope the negative comments didn't let you down. and liked your FB!! x0x0
Thanks dear! I'm pretty sure I don't look like a clown too but am happy that you'll read my blog even if I do. Lol. Yeah, clowns are pretty scary characters for Halloween... the makeup is fun to do, but the costume is a little more difficult. Where to get a colorful wig?! I always want to spend as little money as possible on a Halloween outfit coz I try to be different every year. Thanks for liking my fb! Are u back to blogging again? =)
To be honest, I think you'd have been better off not reproducing the comment in this blog post. Don't feed the trolls, and all. No need to respond in such a public way.
Well, I thought contrary to that. That comment didn't hurt me, but by posting it, has helped many others understand why it is common to receive negative comments and how to deal with them. Trolls scheme to promote anger and sadness with insensitive words, and by feeling nothing for their comments, the trolls have failed in their primary purpose. I don't think I'm responding to it per se, but merely sharing with others how best NOT to feed the trolls. :)
I am looking forward to the next tutorial. Although i haven't received any negative comments, and hope I don't ever, I want to know how to react if I do really get them some day. anyway, I guess you can take it that your blog is growing well because if it weren't so popular, trolls wouldn't bother to leave stupid comments, right? Stay positive! Smile! Your smile is lovely!
Thanks Sarahkune for the positive thought! The next post on 'How to deal with negative comments on your blog' is up already! Do take a look at it, and I hope it helps if you ever receive nasty comments. =)
That's right, girl! Ignore those childish and ignorant trolls! They don't deserve your getting upset over for. Your time is precious... it is meant for creating those excellent makeup tutorials of yours! They're really awesome by the way. I have a feeling you are going to make it big some day. :)
Awww, thanks Kelly for the trust in me! I sure will continue making tutorials and writing product reviews for all of you! =D
I get negative comments alllll the time. Not just on my blog, but I used to do live streaming and youtube videos, and people would log on and say that I wore too much make up, not enough, that I was ugly, that I was fat, etc etc etc... Basically, no matter what I did, there were people who would find an issue with it. You are a beautiful person, but you don't need me to tell you that. People who leave negative comments have issues including and above and beyond what you've mentioned here. The best thing you can do is ignore them. It's ridiculous to me that as advance as human kind is, we still haven't figured out how to deal with our own problems without projecting them on to someone else.
Oh dear.... all the time must be really hard... You're a really strong woman to be able to ignore all those negative comments and continue making more videos! One of the reasons I refuse to start a Youtube channel is the lack of control on comments people can leave. On my blog, I have absolute control over which comments see the light of day, but not on YT. It's just scary to put your face out there, knowing you have zero management over the impending messages. Thank you for your encouraging words, Kat. They mean so much to me, especially because you have been through it yourself, and emerged stronger and wiser.
Hi Bun Bun, i hope all those unconstructive and mean remarks didnt affect u too much.. these people are plain losers and just need to put others down so that they can feel better about themselves cos they know how screwed up they really are, hence normal people, to them, are an eyesore. But the problem lies with they themselves and not with anyone else. Well i do youtube videos too and just yesterday i got a comment on one of my videos asking me 'who asked u to make reviews?' i was pissed and stunned at the audacity of the person. Hello, social network is free for all as long as people have the means and will. But this is not the first nor is it going to be the last time people make such uncalled for remarks. All i can say is, i cant help it if they feel inferior just cos we do what we like. They should go get a life, seriously. Meanwhile, just keep doing what you are doing cos we all support you! yay :)
Ya! This is the best time to use "It's YOU, not me". Argh, that comment you got on your video is really mean! I hope you ignored it because you don't really have control over YT comments right? That sucks by the way, the lack of control, I mean. Losers don't have a life in the real world, so they try and inflict pain on others in the internet world the kind of pain they experience in the real world. Aw, I feel so sad just thinking about their sad lives. But thanks a lot for sharing with me your experience, so I know I'm not alone! :D
Haha I like how you said it comes in a package, blogging and negative comments. It's so true. You know you've reached a certain level on your blog when you've received your first negative comment ;) With blogging (and basically putting ourselves out there via social media), a thick skin has become a requirement. We just can't let it get to us. There will always be people whose opinions differ from ours, and the term 'constructive criticism', well, that's just open to interpretation (I've received really bad ones, under the pretext of 'constructive criticism'). Know that you're doing a good job, and if 99% of your readers think you're fab (I'm one of them! :P), then that 1% of naysayers and trolls aren't just worth your time :)
Sheeesh, those bad ones appearing under the pretext of contructive criticism... they say something nasty and then go 'but I like your blog', is it? XD Yeah, I agree that we have to have thick skin. My blogging journey has taught me that well and I guess it just has to grow thicker and thicker as your blog grows bigger and bigger. Thanks for your advice and encouragement, Tine! :D
Omg, I think I am in love with you. (lol jk!) You're so brave! I felt so much for you through this entire post. I wish someday I can be as strong as you. From first hand experience I know how so extremely hurtful these things can be - these kinds of things are the reason I stopped posting in forums and blogs until recently (your blog was the first when I restarted!). Keep standing up against meanies haters and trollers!! *^_^*
Lol! Thanks for the love, dear Julia! I hope you don't let those nasty comments get to you too much, because that means letting the trolls win. The more you appear nonchalant about them, the stronger you become. I've learnt to be a stronger person ever since I started this blog. It's made me realize that there are people out there (complete strangers) who have nothing better to do than aim to hurt, but there are also people whom I've never met in my life who would stand up and give words of kindness and encouragement when I need them, like you! :D
Don't mind them those sillies. These are the people that can say these comments behind their computers but would never have the balls in reality to say it to your face. I think you always look lovely and your tutorials are great. I've been following your blog for a while ( not via feedburner though). Anyways, look at it this way, your blog is getting well know enough to start getting trolls! Please keep those posts rolling, you're doing great!
Cowards in real life, really! It's sad that they don't realize that with every hate comment they post, they become lesser versions of themselves. Thanks so much for the support, Liane. It's great to know, in a way, that the blog is doing well enough to attract trolls. Hahaha... Must stay positive! =D
Ahahaa! Well, people will say such silly things over the Internet that defies normal common sense and gracious ethics. I enjoy your blog (even got some makeup items after reading your review...) so you're doing a kick-ass job! ;)
Yay! Which items have you gotten from reading my reviews? Yup, these silly people who write silly comments should be ignored, but I'm glad I brought it out to share so that people can know what to do, how to react, when faced with such negativity.
hi there, I like your blog. At the moment, yours and Paris B's are the only ones I subscribe to. I find your articles articulate, easy to follow and your tips helpful. And I also think you are pretty and NOT at all look like a clown :D Don't let these haters get to you, keep up the good work :D
I'm really happy you like my articles, Mei! Don't worry, those haters don't have a chance of getting to me at all. For every 1 hater, I have about 20,000 fans. That's a pretty good tradeoff, eh? :D
Hello there, it's my first comment on your lovely blog heh heh ^.^ I write fanfiction, and every once in a blue moon, I receive a review that is just plain nasty and has nothing to do with constructive criticism at all. The people who leave them just attack what is blatantly open, and well, let's just say they get a kick out of it. As people online always say, let haters hate. You always have the delete button on. If they have the right to say it, then you have the right to delete it.
Absolutely agreed, Hanny! As the captains of our own works, we have every right to eradicate the nasties people attempt to throw at us. It helps to know that you're not alone in facing all these - every other blogger must have had their fair share of the negative side of blogging too!
Damn, I'd never think of you as a clown ever! Both Gina and Jason really have NOTHING better to do! I'm sure the only way they vent their problems is through the internet, you're right, it's so easy for people to be mean, especially when they aren't talking to you in person! Terrible people can be! My blog is still small and unknown, so no nasty comments yet! I hope i won't get any of course but I'll definitely fume and get over it! But I'll be tempted to get one of my hacker/programmer friends to mess with them! mwahaha! I hope you don't have to put up with any more nasty shit from people, we all have better things to deal with!
I don't see the resemblance either. gina is really bad at visual imagery description, isn't it? Hahaha, I guess it's natural for anyone to feel upset when people say bad things about them, especially people who don't know them at all! I wouldn't take revenge though, don't wanna waste my time and energy on them when I can put the time to better use - like talk to you. :)
Why Do People Leave Negative Blog Comments On Blogs?
Because they come in a package. The more and longer you blog, the more comments you get. Comments come in the form of encouragement, appreciation, praise, information, but they can also be in the nature of spam, non-constructive criticism, and absolute nonsense.
A couple of weeks ago, I received my first negative comment and surprising myself, a chuckle escaped from my mouth.
That chuckle momentarily made me think I was able to take it in my stride and let it slide, but after a few minutes of re-reading the comment, I felt a surge of hot madness boiling in my chest.
That comment was in response to these pictures from the 5th day of Christmas Eye Makeup Tutorials.
Clown? What clown?!? I don’t have a big red nose, lipstick-enlarged mouth, white pasty face, or stars for eyes.
Poor gina has never seen clowns in her/his/its life.
After recovering from my shock and disbelief that someone would make the effort to leave the name, email address and care to think of mean things to say in an attempt to make me feel bad-whatever, I decided that I should not let this low-class parasite of a person named gina ruin my confidence about my makeup skills and the way I look.
Who the f*** is gina anyway?
Instead, I channeled my energy to writing this post to help anyone who has received negative comments or will potentially receive them one day. Regardless of whether one blogs about makeup and beauty, or computer and technology, or food and nutrition, you can’t run away from negative comments.
I haven’t been in the blogging scene long enough to know all there is to dealing with negative blog comments, but have read a good amount of material to protect myself and understand that I’m not alone.
What Are Negative Comments?
It really depends on your threshold of what is to be regarded as ‘negative’. To me, a negative comment is one that does not make me smile when I read it. A positive comment does not necessarily have to be praise – a question makes me happy too. It makes me happy knowing that there are people reading what I put my heart and soul into producing.
Under the umbrella of ‘negative’, there are 2 categories
1. Constructive criticism
2. Shitload of nonsense
1. Constructive Criticism
Our good parents and teachers taught us that ‘If you have nothing good to say, shut up’. It’s not easy to give constructive critism. That’s why people prefer not to say anything at all, most of the time.
I guess the ability to provide constructive criticism for the betterment of the recipient comes with maturity – the maturity of the mind and emotional quotient to genuinely want the recipient to benefit from the words spoken, and maturity of body language and vocal adjustment to match.
Well, I did, for a moment, ponder over the comments by ‘gina’. Do I really look that bad in those pictures???
After analyzing (seriously, my foundation is so sheer you can see the bumps, freckles and dark eye circles to look anywhere near mask-like!), I concluded that ‘gina’ most probably cannot stand people who apply makeup better than herself/himself/itself, has absolutely no idea about makeup, is jealous of my adventurous nature to try colored contact lenses, and is suicidal about anything beautiful in life.
2. Shitload Of Nonsense
Other than spam, there are people who dedicate their pathetic lives to the hope of destroying those of others.
Behavior that belong to this group:
Here’s another comment I received that I thought was plain rude, racist and childish. I actually laughed when I read it because it’s so juvenile.
*Jason’s whiny voice: I’m insecure! Please tell me I’m superior to all you lowly beings!
I will talk more about this comment in the next post.
Obviously, ‘gina’ and ‘Jason’ belong to the category of Shitload of Nonsense.
Why Do People Leave Negative Comments On Blogs?
I’m no psychologist, but here are what I think why people feel the need to leave negative comments that serve no purpose other than waste 2 seconds of the blogger’s time to delete them.
1. ‘Trolls Are Ugly, Oversized, And Immensely Stupid’
That’s how JK Rowling describes them, and ‘Troll’ is the lowest grade that a wizard or witch can receive for examinations. Just so you know, lol.
In human and internet slang, trolling is akin to vandalism. A troll is the vandalizer who leaves an unsightly stain on the proprietor’s estate, with the intention to irritate, generate negative feelings, and cause arguments. Internet trolls are the lowest form of beings in the online community, everyone hates them, but they are unavoidable.
One should be able to discern between a comment left by a troll and one that seeks to let you see things from another perspective (constructive criticism).
Typically, blog trolls leave one deadly comment and they’re off. They also don’t leave any link to their website. That’s how they manage to escape Akismet too, coz Akismet will usually filter out those with website links more stringently. I believe blog trolls behave differently from forum trolls coz of the nature of forums, where there is no single person to oversee all the comments.
More about that in the next post.
2. Envy And Jealousy
We’re all born with the ability to be envious and jealous. Without them, there won’t be a desire to strive to be better. Taken beyond that, however, it destroys you.
That’s why the more popular you get in the blogosphere, the more open to invitation you are to trolls and haters.
More often than not, those who post negative comments or give poor ratings or dislike videos do so because they are JEALOUS or ENVIOUS. They are green with envy with the success you have achieved and see you as a threat to their miniscule existence in this world.
They think posting negative comments to put other people down makes themselves feel better or superior – because they can say what they want, unlike in their oppressed, pathetic, real lives.
With every negative comment they post, it eats into their soul and they end up becoming lesser versions of themselves in time.
Here’s to all those who try to put others down by leaving negative comments because they are unable to achieve anything in their own lives :
Jealousy is a disease. Get well soon.
3. They Can’t Do It Themselves
One common hate comment I’ve read from forum discussions and YouTube is the blogger’s ability to make money out of it.
I find comments like ‘She’s making too much money out of it’, ‘She used to be kinder when she wasn’t the face of [insert brand]’, ‘She was less snooty before she made money’, very childish and petty.
Yes, these comments stem from envy and jealousy, but more so, they point at the issue of money-making from one’s blog.
I want to ask: What’s wrong with making money from one’s blog?
You have a job – you work your ass off - you make money out of it.
You have a blog - you work your ass off - you make money out of it.
What’s wrong with being rewarded in money for the time and effort put into something? Isn’t it the best thing to be paid for a job that you actually love?
How does saying bad things about a blogger or YouTuber make you a better person? Does it make you richer?
These people should stop embarrassing themselves by announcing to the world that they are struggling to put food on the table and do something constructive with their lives!
4. It’s So Easy To Be Mean
The ‘dislike’ button in YouTube makes it too easy for people to put down a video. I’m glad Facebook doesn’t have a ‘dislike’ button and never will. By the way, please ‘like’ the Bun Bun Makeup Tips facebook page!
It just takes that much more trouble for a hater to type ‘YOU SUCK’ than clicking on a ‘dislike’ button.
Many times I fall in love over and over again with a great video, be it an MV or tutorial, and yet there are people who dislike the video. Why, I ask? What is there to not like about the video?
I guess there are a million reasons why a person dislikes something, and sometimes despite the fact that there is absolutely nothing wrong with a video, people will want to hate it.
That’s why the wise always say that no matter what you do or who you are, there will be people who will not like you or your craft. That’s life.
Let me speak on behalf of YouTubers out there:
Envy me, rate me, bottom line: you ain’t me.
5. Attention Seeking
I remember watching an episode on Glee where Gweneth Paltrow was asking 3 students of McKinley High, after she tracked them down with their IP addresses, why they constantly leave hateful comments about others in forums.
The unanimous reason was not unexpected – they craved for attention they did not have in real life.
Just like bullies who themselves are actually victims of domestic abuse or have other problems in their lives resort to extortion, physical violence, and other forms of aggressions to appear stronger, cyber bullies hide behind the screen of anonymity to perform what they never dare or can do in real life – taunt.
They need to prove that there are people interested in what they are saying because they can’t find it elsewhere.
To all cyber bullies: Your words mean nothing, just like you.
Well, to sum it up, here’s what I think of bullies:
B ig
U gly
L onely
L osers
Y earning attention
Have you been a victim of negative comments on your blog or youtube channel? What are your views on internet trolls? Have you left any negative comments before?
In the next post, we will discuss methods to deal with negative comments on your blog.
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